Mother's Day

Mother's day makes me very sad.  You'd think now that I am actually a biological mother that would change and I would bask in the glory of one day dedicated to ME.

Wrong.  Couldn't be further from the truth.

Yes, it's true.  I am a mother.  

But I have been a mother for a long time.  But not to the sleeping baby in the nursery   That just happened 16 months ago.  

Motherhood isn't about birthing a baby (heck, I didn't even do that...I just let them cut him out of me.)

It isn't about the biological child that has touched my heart for eternity.

It's about loving those God puts in your path and nurturing them to their greatest potential.  All women are mothers.  It's just how we are created.

Besides, this biological mothering gig, it's not pretty most of the time.  This post expresses this reality beautifully   http://www.aholyexperience.com/2013/05/why-mothers-day-is-for-the-birds/

I am really uncomfortable with tomorrow.

I know how it feels to ache for a child.  And to feel so left out as the world celebrates all of the biological mothers and to feel like you are just a second rate woman watching from the sidelines.  Yet, we are all mothers.  In our own way.

I really don't mean to sound ungrateful.  It's just that tomorrow, my heart will be aching for the dear ones in my life who yearn for a family of their own.  

So tomorrow, join me in remembering all of the special women in your life.  The ones who don't have children...yet.  The women who have mothered you, whether they are your mother or not.  And especially the women who have lost a child this past year.   

We are all mothers.